Start dating after marriage breakup
Or perhaps the child was overly shy and withdrawn, folding themselves into the parent.
At younger ages some of this behavior is acceptable. Both the kids and the parents need to return to healthy boundaries and healthy communication styles, so that everyone can grow up, and let go of the stigma and shame of the divorce.
Even under duress, I am showing how I can remain calm, and make strong and positive decisions. Especially in the early stages of a new relationship. And often this trauma causes us to revert to old and unhealthy defense mechanisms. I have seen both men and women who were WAY to enmeshed with their children.
And of course, as a divorced, and now-single parent, I am going to do everything I can to take care of my kids needs. Maybe the kid was a brat who was completely undisciplined.
I am showing both my daughter and my son how a man acts in the world.
If the person doesn’t really open up until a glass of wine or two, you might be rubbing up against someone who has a hard time expressing themselves.
In moderation, as a celebration lifter, a few drinks on the weekend are no problem.
But if it’s every single night, and the glass of whatever becomes like the cup of coffee in the morning, a necessary lubricant, there is probably an issue there.
And I’ve seen TV become the same sort of numbing or escaping addiction. You want clear and present as the normal relating condition between you and another consenting adult. And if the chemistry is working, there may be a pull towards the bedroom.