Rules to online dating
Manley is on the same page, but his reasoning is more economical: “Guys still [usually] make more money than women, so they should offer to pay, regardless of whoever asked out whom,” he says.“There’s a sort of New Age chivalry about that.” Unfortunately, the rule seems even less clear for those in the LGBT community, says Morningside Heights resident and comedian Stephanie Foltz, who is bisexual.Foltz, 29, says it can be tricky, but that gender norms are still at play.“I have a more masculine energy, so I usually pay on the first date,” she says.With Facebook, Twitter and some minor sleuthing, anyone can be tracked down.“If you sleep with someone, there’s a good chance you’ll be able to contact them again [or vice versa],” says Manley.But such shenanigans are now considered passé, given how we’re all constantly looking at our smartphones.
“Now we’ve given ourselves permission to talk about these things, so it’s becoming a lot more common for people to [even] talk about their exes,” she says.
“There are definitely guys who would be really into a woman taking charge like that,” says Manley.
The 1996 comedy “Swingers” popularized the idea that cool kids must wait three days to call a date after an encounter.
Technology and new ideas about sex and gender have dramatically changed the laws of love, from who pays for dinner to how long to wait to call after a date.
“It’s sort of like the Wild West out there,” says Alex Manley, dating and sex editor at Ask