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pick an ethnic group, someone out there has decided they have a “thing” for them.There isn’t any one group that ends up fetishizing other ethnic groups; you are as likely to find hard-core Nipponophiles who have an obsession with Japanese women as you will find men who have “given up” on white women because they’re too “independent”.Online dating tends to mean that people often let their filters down – the anonymity combined with the impersonalization of online communication often leads to people saying and acting in ways that they likely wouldn’t in person; this is also known as the Penny Arcade Greater Internet Fuckwad Theory. and a lot more people willing to call them out on being creepy.A couple of days ago, the newest version of these – Creepy White Guys – was brought to my attention by readers.Notice how much care or attention he pays to the woman he’s writing to: absolutely none.There’s nothing about “hey, we both Neil Gaiman novels and long road trips across the country! ” or about what attracts him to her as an individual. “But hey,” I hear some folks say, “he’s saying that Asian women are the Asian women.” No. This pretty much makes him as much of a racist douchebag if he lead off with jokes about doing his math homework (or his dry-cleaning, for that matter) or martial arts.
We see it all the time and thus we become used to it. This is also the frequent cause of so many people’s fascinations with other cultural groups – why so many prep boys seem to have a thing for alt-punk girls, for example.
(Obligatory ass covering: I’m a cisgendered, heterosexual white guy talking about racial issues.
Odds are good I’m going to inadvertently shove my foot in my mouth at high speed.
racial fetishism – who does it more and what’s so bad about it anyway?
Aside from, y’know, the racism and trading on sexual stereotypes.