Red flags on dating
Every country in the world has a flag – some weird, some beautiful and some incredibly boring (Libya’s flag for instance – plain green and nothing else).This list looks at ten flags, or types of flags, that are unique in one or another aspect from other flags.Persons carrying or waving a white flag are not to be fired upon, nor are they allowed to open fire.The use of the flag to surrender is included in the Geneva Conventions.Flags originated in China and India and spread around the world.Because they are so ancient it is not possible to pinpoint the very first, so we are doing the next best thing by including the Dannebrog – the world’s oldest state flag still in use.The black flag, and the color black in general, have been associated with anarchy since the 1880s.
If any of these flags are waving, move forward carefully — if at all. “I’m not really the boyfriend/husband/relationship type.” You will not change his mind. If she won’t put the phone away, she’s not giving you her undivided attention and isn’t being intentional about getting to know you. If he’s looking for a little somethin’-somethin’ outside of a committed relationship, he’s not thinking long-term. If he orders for you, tells you what you should have worn to dinner, and makes every decision for you, his inner control freak has no boundaries. If everything is “the worst,” and life has given your date the worst hand ever, beware of the Debbie Downer. Is the conversation filled with name-dropping and stories of overachievement? — a total lack of career direction or ambition in general is cause for concern. “My ex hated this place.” Constant ex talk, whether it’s reflective, comparative or hostile, is a red flag. Yellow flag: He doesn’t want to talk about his line of work. If you’re looking for a boyfriend/husband/relationship, he’s not the one. If this is already a problem on the first date, it’s only going to get worse with time. If he doesn’t respect your spoken boundaries or very clear “no thank you” body language, run. Even less extreme examples of controlling behavior are to be headed as red-flag warnings. A glass or two might take the edge off, but getting drunk on a first date might indicate a more serious problem. You want someone who will build into your life, not bring you down. Yellow flag: “I’ve never had a serious girlfriend.” Maybe he’s just waiting for the right woman to come along — or maybe he’s not into commitment. “I’m in between jobs right now.” While unemployment doesn’t always have to be a deal-breaker — times are tough, right? If he has to have his way all the time, let him have it — as a single guy. Related: If she’s angry about everything, it won’t be long before she directs that anger at you.