How to handle rejection in dating
It's one thing to be rejected in a bar, where you can just tell yourself homeboy must have a boring girlfriend waiting for him at home; it's quite another to reach out to a single-and-looking chap and let him witness your entire stash of documented wit and charm before deciding you're not worth responding to.
It's better than wooing you out onto a date or two and then dropping the I'm-just-looking-for-some-action bomb, amirite?
So if you're offering your heart up to the WWW gods, don't be too put off by the following social un-graces.
Save your sobbing for the disappointment of bad first dates, seemingly perfect mates who can't commit and the Ones Who Get Away. The Offense: After reading Suitor X's profile, you are convinced you two are going to fall in love and wander through tulip fields while Louis Armstrong songs waft from some invisible speaker.
But either way, we have a moral responsibility of dealing with it better. 4) Becoming a disgruntled “rejectee” makes you one step closer to a stalker. 5) Getting upset at her isn’t exactly going to change her mind. You’re also screwing it up for all the boys and young men out there in your life who are watching you, observing you are learning from your behavior when you get rebuffed by a woman. If we can’t handle when a woman says she’s not interested, how will be handle it when an employer says the same thing? When we get injured and can no longer run the marathon we’ve trained months for?
And if you do want to change her mind, start by showing you respect her decisions. You letting yourself getting too wounded by her disapproval means you could be on your way to some ridiculous pattern of over-reacting, and at its worst, possibly physical abuse. So not only will she miss out on possible romance, but so will your fellow men whom she’s too gun shy now to even consider. Any life spent chasing goals is going to run into some resistance–romantic pursuits aside.