Dating an old flame after divorce
Reuniting with a past love has its ups, downs, pros and cons just as starting a relationship with someone new does, but I think there are a few more advantages to rekindling an old flame that people don’t realize.
For instance, you don’t have to start from scratch when getting familiar with them because you already know quite a bit.
“To move forward, I had to be whole emotionally, financially, mentally, and spiritually.
After I accomplished some set goals, I knew it was time.” Here's what experts say you should consider before dating: Some people are ready to date after 2 months; others may need years. It's important to experience the emotions associated with divorce.
Give yourself “a little time to think, a little time to grieve, a little opportunity to find someone else,” Sills says.
If you're still thinking about what your ex is doing or whom he's dating, you're too distracted to begin a healthy relationship.
Now is the time to learn new things about your past love since you were apart.
It’s also the time to get reacquainted with the things you loved about them before and learn how to adjust to the things you didn’t like so much.
Tauber, Ph D, a California-based divorce counselor and co-author of Find the Right One After Divorce.Many times when a love affair is over a person is left with emotional, mental and sometimes, physical scars.If this is the case, it may not be a good idea to give things another try.One other pitfall of starting over with an old flame is that things may not be better than the first time you dated, but worse.And if this is the case, head for the hills and don’t look back!