Dating a girl from work
This system obviously has advantages over night-time pick-ups in darkened clubs, holiday romances, (notoriously short-lived), or blind dates arranged by friends. High-powered City workers of the Nineties are accustomed to using the office as a complete life- support system. Making a pass is a dangerous manoeuvre in the workplace. Trying to blur the lines between business and pleasure will appear sleazy.
If your interest is not reciprocated you could be accused of sexual harassment or - at least - end up looking sad and sleazy once the office gossips have done their worst. How highly do you value this person as an employee/ colleague/ friend? This would entail getting someone to work late at the office and then taking them out for a meal "because it's too late to go home and cook" or taking them away on a business conference and making sure your rooms are next door to one another. Working well with someone means being relaxed with them - and that is impossible if you're not sure whether they're trying to seduce you or not.
Now, remember all those nasty little tricks people use to ditch someone will be absolutely no use in the workplace. The phrase "I'll call you" won't apply because you'll see their smiling face next morning in the office.
and because of that there must be a rule: Sex on the first date is OUT! Think anything that will scare you enough to persuade you to wait until you are in a serious and stable relationship.
I enjoy working with you, so why complicate things? On paper they read a bit like Noel Coward out-takes).
And at all costs avoid the following: "That's okay, no hard feelings - as I hope you won't have when I tell you your pay rise has just been cancelled." Or: "So Quentin in accounts was right after all, you aren't lesbian/gay".
Sex At work: A Survival Guide by Judi James, published by the Industrial Society, is available in bookshops from 3 April, price pounds 8.99, or call 01 The office bromides Modern working environments have, to a certain extent, evolved their own checks and balances to counter workplace passion Sad cladding: The business suit. Downsizing: Which means added workloads which equals "too busy to even think about it". For anyone thinking of indulging, I will add only five words at this point: open-plan offices; security cameras. If you must indulge, though, here are some of the favourite office spots for consummating that torrid affair.
Bad habits: Unattractive office behaviour like knuckle-cracking, foot tapping, slurping coffee too loudly, whistling, loud yawning or noisy eating are all common practices in open-plan offices and can constitute a great turn-off. Desktops: A prime naughty spot on account of the fact that what would normally host hour after hour of sweated slave labour should also be permitted to induce the odd bout of more fun-filled perspiration.
Don't boast about your pulling power and don't mock the afflicted. Stress: The most effective way of stopping all those hormones and testosterone in their tracks. Good stress-surfing brings about the old adrenalin rush that can engender frisky behaviour, but negative stress can make you too tired and anxious even to notice the sex of the person working next to you, let alone fancy them.IT HAS been estimated that up to half of us meet our future partners through or at work, which makes it a significant venue for budding romance.There are obvious plus points to meeting your partner at work: 1.Be polite, open, honest, and assertive, not furtive. And never be lewd (good, old-fashioned word) or make a pass.How about: "Would you like to come out for a meal with me tomorrow night?