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Sometimes this trait manifests as simple didn’t-think-it-through impetuosity.There’s a scene in during Lily and Marshall’s break-up where Lily lets herself into his apartment and hides behind the couch, only to leap out when he tries to get close to another woman. But, as the heady world of BPD will teach you — it happens.They are evident in songs, and in TV shows and films, often capturing BPD’s primary traits: fear of abandonment, feeling unlovable, hypersexuality, and impulsive behaviors.Take intense fear of abandonment, one of the main traits of BPD.Often for BPDs, they show up as substance abuse, or self-destructive behaviors such as cutting, burning, or binge eating.All of which is followed by intense regret, and, subsequently, more impulsive actions; literally anything will do if it stifles the shame spiral.

Like the club Groucho Marx didn’t want to belong to, if somebody loves you, they must be an idiot because you know — your BPD tells you — that you are fundamentally unlovable.BPD And My Dating Life Long before I was diagnosed, my first boyfriend bore the brunt: At 17, we should have been exploring ourselves and each other, but he was hacking down my walls while I stood back and burned bridges.After our affair flamed out, it took a number of years for me to even consider opening up again.BPD In Pop Culture While there are few apt, direct portrayals of BPD in broad society, representations manage to creep into common consciousness through TV, film, and music, leaving the public, at least subconsciously, more aware of the disorder than they may realize.Even I managed to read Susanna Kaysen’s memoir (perhaps more commonly recognized in its 1999 Winona Ryder filmic reimagining) twice and didn’t glean that it was ostensibly describing what I had.

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