Ban dating interracial
Not because he’s a Chinese man, or because our relationship is “unique” or different. “That is an unfortunate case of ignorance and it does reflect a point of racism and bigotry if those attitudes extend to other people who just â€œlook similarâ€.” Your point is well taken. there are a lot of Irish people who wont date or marry other white people or white Americans of English origin, ie., English and there are a lot of Serbians who wont date other whites, eg. People looking down on a white woman marrying someone of Chinese origin is born of contempt and derision rather than historical hatreds between whites and Chinese.For now, though, I’m just happy to have John, my Chinese husband, in my life.Generally, the pressure to split up comes from the family since, after all, in China, marriage is a family affair.There was one Chinese boyfriend who told me, flat out, that his parents would never accept me.Fortunately, their ideas changed when they met me in person!On the other hand, there are Chinese men — and their families — who would be happy to have a foreign woman in the family. For example, my good friend in Hangzhou, Xiao Yu, once told me that some Chinese men cannot overcome their feeling of inferiority — that being an American girl, a citizen of one of the most powerful countries in the world, made my presence somewhat intimidating.
And if they are to leave China to go to her country, they will face even more obstacles to earning money — language, culture, prejudices.On occasion, it even creeps into the news, like this story.For now, though, I’m just happy to have John, my Chinese husband, in my life. Race related prejudice is born of contempt and colonialism rather than historical hatreds.Still, despite the odds, sterotypes and other barriers, it does happen that Chinese men and foreign women get together.It happened for me — and a growing number of other women, including bloggers such as the Local Dialect, The Downtown Diner, and Wo Ai Ni.